When my friend Kim Harris was all of 14 years old, she told me at a sleepover that she was going to marry her boyfriend Dana Hungerford some day. Of course that's what happened or I wouldn't be telling you this, but they were together until he died of a heart attack last Thursday, at age 53. The father of two and grandfather of nine, he had just begun his 30th year as a math teacher at Fairfield Community High School, in a Southern Illinois town of 5,400 not far from where we all grew up. As news of his death spread this weekend, a couple of his former students put up a Facebook page for tributes to him, and by Sunday night, more than 900 people had joined and were swapping stories about his bad jokes and good influence:
-- "I have never had a class where I could learn so much and still laugh so hard.''
-- "I'm a basically unteachable math student and he was very patient, never made me feel stupid.''
-- "I always did so poorly in math and he made it fun and always made sure I understood what he was talking about. . . . [H]e always came to class in a good mood and boosted everyone up.''
--"He had a way of making math easy.''
-- "He . . . truly loved each and every one of his students. When he taught, I learned.''
-- "I have hated math all my life except for last year he made me love it.''
And so on; Michelle Rhee, eat your heart out. Because my own husband covers the Rhee-run D.C. public schools for The Washington Post, I may have heard more than my fair share about the fierce debate over whether we could improve the quality of education in some of our iffier public schools by holding teachers accountable for their students' scores on standardized tests. (Should teachers be evaluated and compensated according to their ability to improve student scores every year? Or does the fact that there are so many more factors at play – in the school, home and community – make this an unfair way to assess a teacher's real worth?)
Although I don't pretend to know the answer, reading over the tributes to Dana did suggest that a teacher's most important contributions might be the hardest to measure – and that personal or even strictly academic progress wouldn't necessarily translate into net gains in proficiency levels.
Some of those who left messages said they hadn't even had Dana as a teacher – but had gone to him anyway for help with homework, or for advice, or because "he was always the teacher to go to if you needed a good laugh.'' Not everyone who took his class was transformed into a math whiz. But support and laughs are no less essential than basic skills, even if they are impossible to document: "He was my math teacher for Algebra I for several years thanks to my excellence in math,'' one former student wrote, then went on to remember how good it had felt to share a joke with him. "He made me believe I could do anything,'' said one young woman; how could you ever quantify that? And even more than he wanted his students to learn math, said another, "he wanted them to find direction and to enjoy the life God gave them.''
A high school and college basketball player, he coached for several years in the 1980s, and his obit in the Evansville Courier & Press notes that "his career record was 25 wins and 75 losses.'' Though Dana loved numbers, and insisted they were fun, career stats for teachers (and other humans) are trickier. His funeral on Tuesday was held in the school, the only place big enough to hold the crowd.
Melinda Henneberger is the editor-in-chief of PoliticsDaily.com. She spent 10 years as a reporter for the New York Times, in the paper’s Washington and Rome bureaus... more
Thank you, Missy, for this amazing article about my father-in-law. Not only was he one of the greatest teachers around, but he was also THE greatest family man you'll ever meet. He loved us all so much & would do anything for us. I know that when someone passes away, you generally hear or read similiar sentiments, but this man was IT - A perfect example for all of us. There has never been a better husband, father, grandfather, teacher, or friend. Of this I am certain.
I love him & miss him so much. I'm looking forward to the day when I will see him again... Dana, rest in peace, my friend.
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Mrs Dana Hungerford
11:31AM Sep 28th 2009
Thank you, Lea Ann. You know how much we both love you and Joey and Ethan. Life may throw changes at us when we don't expect or want it but one thing that will never change is the love we all feel for each other. Love you, Your 'other ' mom, Kim
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hunger4
11:30AM Sep 28th 2009
Thank you Missy from the bottom of my heart. This article was beautiful. It would make Dana so happy to know that he made a difference in his student's lives. He loved people and never judged them because of their financial standing or abilities. When we would go to Walmart together, it was difficult to get our shopping done because he was always so busy waving at former students and stopping for a 'quick' chat. If I heard it once I heard it a thousand times "Hey Mr H!" He would always answer and call them by name. Going to Walmart will never be the same but I know in my heart Dana made this world a better place. My eternal thanks to all the support and love I am receiving from everyone. May God bless you all.
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Liz
12:55PM Sep 28th 2009
As the parent of 3 of his students I can tell you that Dana influenced the kids not only with his humor,compassion,understanding and Intelligence, he also made them feel worthy.
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jrotced02
1:49PM Sep 28th 2009
An awful lot of male public school teachers have heart attacks or die in their 50's. I wonder if theirs' a connection?
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ayumanbean
11:09AM Sep 30th 2009
I wonder if THEIRS' a connection...
How uneducated are the posters on AOL anyway? Do you think this person meant .. THERE IS a connection? We so need teachers in America.
It is a huge loss when such a talented person dies.
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JJ1106
2:25PM Sep 30th 2009
the connection may just be that they all died doing what they loved to do
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jrotced02
1:50PM Sep 28th 2009
Sorry..."there's"
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sroosevelt
4:58PM Sep 28th 2009
What a wonderful article. My dad taught math at Mt. Carmel High School for 30 yrs. and died 15 years ago at age 58. I still have people tell me what a difference he made in their lives. My sincere sympathy goes out to the Hungerford family.
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pgeent
5:53PM Sep 28th 2009
I hope Mr. Hungerford realized he was the man we all aspire to be. Hungerford family, you will be in my thoughts.
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nikiw
11:12PM Sep 28th 2009
What a great article, Missy. Kim and Dana were such a neat couple in school. It was really nice to know that they have made a difference in this world. My heart and prayers go out to Kim and her family in this sad time, but I'm sure when she reads your words, she will find some comfort there. ~Niki Morris Webb
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gary
8:15PM Sep 28th 2009
It is a great inspiration to other teachers to hear about and see the way this man's students loved him. I wish we all could be as effective. God bless all the students and family during your time of loss
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dragonemisis
9:33PM Sep 28th 2009
Dear Melinda,
Teachers are the unsung heroes of our time. It is the Eighth Wonder of the World that teachers are not compensated commensurate to the influence they have on the future leaders & CEOs of America. Sir Isaac Newton, Aristotle, Pythagoras, Albert Einstein, Confucius, Ayn Rand, & Galileo were all teachers.
I have personally had many great teachers & have been privileged to see the changes in my son brought about by the kind & caring heart of a brilliant teacher. Thank you for your wonderful tribute to a magnificent teacher that you knew. I hope we see more articles like this on Politics Daily.
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annlouise
12:33AM Sep 29th 2009
I am a 52 year old teacher and I know this is a devastating loss to Dana's students and mostly to his very large and blessed family. I want to say to them, that his legacy of love to you will sustain you and your future generations. I lost my father to a drowning accident before I was able to remember him- he was 29, but recently I have realized that knowing his commitment to achieving an education in engineering and working up with IBM and then Honeywell, and just hearing about how he cared and loved us gave me a legacy to aspire to. I wonder why I could not have had him until he was say 53 but this is the lot I have been given. I say you are blessed because you had you father long enough to know his strengh and wisdom and advice, and apparently married long enough to have nine grandchildren for him. I made poor decisions and my children did not have a father either.
Your blessings do not take away the terrible empty hole of grief you feel in your chest and the lonliness for that one that has gone so I pray you are comforted by the loving Spirit of Jesus in these coming times.
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jffrybrk
11:55AM Sep 30th 2009
Annlouise, what a wonderful comment. I do not know this family but my heart and prayers go out to them. Teachers are real heroes and it is great knowing that so many children benefitted from this generous spirit.
May God keep and console his family.
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jeff and amy
4:02PM Sep 29th 2009
I wish this country was on fire about education like it is about Health care reform. The education system is as broken as the health care.I was disheartened to learn that the majority of the federal funding will go to law enforcement and homeland security. We need to reward the people who teach our children and find the money to truly educate our children,not teach them how to do well on this one test in order for the school to get proper funding.We will have a better chance if our children are being taught fine arts like music and art along side a well rounded athletic programs. My sympathy to the Hungerford family at this very hard time in their lives.
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ken4ji
7:08AM Sep 30th 2009
The education system is not broken. The parenting system is what is broken. Teachers cannot teach when they are faced with students who have no support at home and in many cases do not even go to bed at night or even have a bed to sleep in. When the parenting system is fixed the education system will be just fine. Give the teachers a break and try fixing the problem. The teachers have to deal with everything now from parenting, counseling, feeding, clothing, financing(believe it or not), and som many other things that go on in a kid's life it is not even funny. That is why teachers like Mr. Hungerford are so beloved-because they try to do everything they can to help kids cope with what parents and society put on them. Don't blame the teachers because of the parents shortcomings.
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nailbndr7453
7:35AM Sep 30th 2009
I had a heart attack at 53. In on Sunday out by Wednesday. (stint) Not sure who was luckier? 1 thing for sure.....this man..WILL BE KNOWN FOR THE THINGS HE LEFT BEHIND. Kindness, love to just mention a few. My prayers will be w/the family.
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tara
8:24AM Sep 30th 2009
What an amazing, heartfelt, wonderful tribute to a man who obviously left the world a better place than he found it. I think teachers are among the noblest of citizens because they, perhaps more so than any other really, have that ability to affect true change in the world. By reaching children and helping them to succeed in life, they ensure our future is something worth looking forward to. They don't get nearly enough credit for the jobs they do and the impact they have.
I was lucky enough to have several teachers like this man when I was growing up. I'm 43 today, and yet I can still hear them in my ear when faced with certain challenges urging me on or guiding me through. This man likely has a legacy that will live far beyond himself and might even inspire a few to follow in his footsteps, carrying on the torch he is now forced to pass on.
My heart goes out to his students and his family and friends. I hope some solace can be taken in the fact that his legacy is so strong. When a great teacher dies, you need only look into the faces of every student ever touched by them to see proof that they live on in each and every one of their lives. And 20 years from now, his words will likely be echoing in the ears of many of his former students as well. Great teachers never truly die, because that influence they had and implemented so well will last forever.
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Coprogirl
10:15AM Sep 30th 2009
Condolences to the family and friends of this wonderful man. A good teacher is like a precious gem, and a good math teacher can make a huge difference in a young student's life. I remember Mr. Marcos from my high school....he reminds me of how Mr. Hungerford has been described here. A note to you older adults...get your physicals, EKG's, and make sure that, if you have any risk factors, you get a stress test done...demand it from your doctor. Take a lesson from this untimely death.