My writing teacher and friend Elizabeth Christman, who wore a spiffy new suit and hat on the first day of every semester and was one of the finest humans ever, died last week at age 96. To be honest, I am completely bereft.
Miss Christman, professor emeritus of American studies at the University of Notre Dame, was a literary agent in New York who read "The Catcher in the Rye" when it was still in manuscript form, and once took Agatha Christie shopping for a bathing suit. But that was before she went back to school at the unheard of age of 52, to pursue a doctorate and a dream -- to teach young idealists how to change the world with their words.
Writer of notes and wearer of pearls, she kept a framed photo of Henry James in her kitchen and a rosary on her night stand. She taught Trollope well into her 80s, and while sensible in the extreme, also had the most contagious sense of occasion.
Although I will not succeed in communicating her awesome Liz-ness to those who did not know her, I can at least tell you what she told me: The passive voice is the enemy. There will be time enough. Reading is the most enduring of all life's pleasures. Deciding what you want is the difficult part; the rest is just hard work. No extraneous words. "Middlemarch" is the best book written in English. Writers write; you can't just tell them you won a contest! I think we should have a glass of wine, don't you? Soon you will be happy to be referred to as girls.
The only person I ever knew her to actively dislike was a college beau of mine -- also her student -- whom she dismissed as "too silly for you.'' In her later years, when her short-term memory had gone, she repeatedly confessed that -- now it can be told! -- she was, in fact, a Democrat. Whenever I phoned, she'd cry, "How did you ever find me here?'' in assisted living -- and then would laugh when I'd answer, "Hey, I'm a reporter, aren't I?"
The eldest of seven, Liz grew up in St. Louis, and after graduating from Webster College -- now Webster University -- in 1935, moved into a garret in her parents' house to pursue a career as a writer. In her unpublished memoir, "Twenty Septembers," she remembers, "I fixed up a studio for myself in the attic of our home, and to it I would retreat and turn out stories and verse which I hoped would get me started commercially. My father didn't press me to get a job, though he had six other children coming up behind me to educate. He was willing to let me try this out."
She made some sales, netting $25 for a short story published in The Catholic World and $1.50 a line for some humorous poems that ran in The Saturday Evening Post. But "I didn't think of any career . . . as a total lifetime undertaking,'' she said in her memoir. "I expected to marry, and in the days of my youth few women ever continued their careers after marriage. Writing, in fact, fitted in better with my scenario of a future as wife and mother than any other job. It was the kind of work one could do in intervals between wiping cute little noses and preparing succulent meals."
That never happened, despite two marriage proposals that I know of. And, during her New York years, "there was a man I loved long and deeply but could not marry." As a younger woman, she was "left at the altar," as she always put it, and to get over it joined the Navy as a WAVE and was posted to Washington during World War II. In New York after the war, she worked her way up from the typing pool to become a sub-agent for Harold Ober -- Mr. Ober to her. Never one to hesitate on her way to making a point, she recalled a prominent writer's complaint that he'd come down with a raging case of writer's block after running a work in progress past "that horrid Miss Christman."
She received her doctorate from NYU and at last became an associate professor in her 60s, fortunately for me and every other AmStud major at Notre Dame, where she made a habit of inviting entire classes over for lasagna -- and on at least one occasion, a rib-bruising marathon of the word game "fictionary." Though I'm still not sure that writing can be taught, I never learned more from a teacher.
She was a late bloomer as a writer as well, publishing four novels, including the gloriously semi-trashy "A Nice Italian Girl,'' which was made into a TV movie, and another about a woman who discovers that her husband is gay. Her greatest work, though, was the unlikely life she built for herself, brick by brick, with equal parts rigor and joy. As a Christian and as a writer, she was of the "don't tell them, show them" school; in class, she spoke of Flannery O'Connor's Catholicism rather than of her own, and I only knew she went to Mass every day because she arrived for lunch appointments straight from Sacred Heart.
Immediately after graduation, I received one of her patented notes inviting me to begin calling her Liz, and from then on we exchanged letters, calls, and visits as friends -- though believe me, never equals. She was so much on my mind last week, yet I didn't call her because -- ninny! -- I dreaded telling her that J.D. Salinger had died.
Her sister, Mary Ellen Hyde Mooney, told me on the phone that she had been fine until just last Monday, when she announced that she was tired, went to bed, and then slipped away over the next several days, while Mary and her daughter said the rosary with her.
In her memoir, Liz ended her own story this way:
Besides teaching students, I've taught myself. The best way to learn a thing, they say, is to teach it. By the constant concentration on what makes good writing, close examination of both good and bad examples, tireless reiteration to my students of such principles as "prefer the concrete to the abstract," I've improved my own writing. Even if my students haven't written many novels, I have written five. And it was teaching that got me started.
The Notre Dame campus is beautiful in September. All summer long the chirping sprinklers have kept the lawns thick and green. How charmingly these lawns are populated with sunburned young men and women in shorts, hurrying or dawdling to their classes. September in campus life is the new year, and it feels full of resolution and promise. Each September I relished this beginning more keenly, realizing that there couldn't be many more for me. Having found my true calling late in life, I have nothing but gratitude for the universities that took a chance on me and the colleagues who welcomed me into their fortunate circles. Leaving these circles, I take with me the memory of charmed years. . . . Those golden September campuses can't fade or fray."
Melinda Henneberger is the editor-in-chief of PoliticsDaily.com. She spent 10 years as a reporter for the New York Times, in the paper’s Washington and Rome bureaus... more
A delightful article, lovingly written. I wish I'd known her.
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Hello Mom
1:31PM Feb 9th 2010
Thank you for a most touching eulogy. I am now a Grandmother who hasn't forgotten my 6th grade teacher, Mr. John Yalch. He taught me the love of reading and that is why I read everything I can including the cereal box when I eat breakfast.I came from a small town in NE Pennsylvania and we didn't have a library. Every week Mr. Yalch made a trip to the closest library which was in Wilkes Barre and and every Monday he would bring in a box of books for us to read. Belatedly...Thank you Mr. Yalch!!!
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angelpupt
2:24PM Feb 9th 2010
What an inspiration she was. I am 45 years old , want to go back to school. Feel I can acheive my goals. Much more focused and grounded. Woman such as her , are living proof. Dreams do not die , at a certain age.God bless u Liz. Know you are teaching a class in heaven , as we speak...
Boni ***
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Kirkistan
12:05PM Feb 8th 2010
Terrific story and thanks for sharing memories of an excellent teacher. Love those late-bloomers.
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Jim King
1:04PM Feb 8th 2010
I knew Liz, and you have captured her life and spirit beautifully. Thank you, Melinda.
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Tired of your lame celebrity
1:52PM Feb 8th 2010
You make us all want to have known her. You dont often find pieces like this today. Kudos to you and Ms.Christman. Thanks for the good feeling you gave me on this rain filled gloomy day. Billy Ray
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loucardsfan
1:59PM Feb 8th 2010
I wonder how the noble Ms. Christman would feel about her protege's support of abortion, gay marriage, or the attempt, by her and her party of choice, to push God out of every public and private aspect of American life?
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davehyland
6:37AM Feb 9th 2010
You just couldn't let it go, as if every AOL article is required to have a mean-spirited user comment. I'll wager that Liz knew her protege's politics very well and when they differed from her own, she decided when to confront the issue and when it didn't matter. If all of your friends agree with you on every issue, you don't have enough friends and are destined to learn less, change less and become less relevant.
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tara
9:18AM Feb 9th 2010
What a typical "christian" (lower case intentional) conservative response to a truly heartfelt obituary for what appears to have been an awesome woman. Frankly, although you really aren't due any answer to your vile and inappropriate questions, you might actually find the answers in the article above. How she felt about this author's stance on issues was likely one of support. Or did you not catch the line that "the passive voice is the enemy" in your rush to spit venom? The compassion this author has translated from her teacher answers your questions quite clearly. It's just too bad that your "teacher" - you know, Christ - didn't adequately teach YOU proper compassion and empathy that embodied all that he stood/stands for. Perhaps you should worry less about what other people are doing and if children who aren't kin to you are praying on everyone's tax dollar, and do a little more praying yourself. You seem to be far from the righteous path your journey dictates to should be. But then, I guess it's really not your fault. When you have leaders who preach hate over love, division over unity, judgment over empathy, and callousness over compassion, I guess it's really not fair for you to understand how truly UNCHRISTIAN your behavior is.
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rubyhm
10:30AM Feb 9th 2010
loucardsfan:
Your comment was right with my values and purpose, until the "fashion a brain" part. This is what the "lefties" like to jump on and you gave them a great trampoline!! Not condemning you, but we all need to "speak the truth in love", and show the world that we can stand for what is right without being closed-minded and rude.
I will work on that...hope you will, as we have so much to gain back after losing so much to them.
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bevcamp105
12:01PM Feb 9th 2010
You are unbelievable. Let's start with the brain comment. You obviously don't have one, because you have done what most right wingers do, lump every 'liberal' writer/person together. Start thinking with YOUR heart and you will be more understanding of another person's point of view. I'm sure Ms. Christman would have been more moderate in her response than you are. Unlike you she would have been more prone to repeat these words, if she were to disagree:
I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it. Voltaire
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mpllmp
12:28PM Feb 9th 2010
There's always one jerk to spoil a lovely, lovely tribute. Way to go, Lou!
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AJ
1:41PM Feb 9th 2010
For the record...Christ was a great teacher....but if the student isn't paying attention, it's all for not.
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Sally
3:44PM Feb 9th 2010
Don't you ever get tired of sprewing your hatred about America and our president? GIve it a rest. This article is a tribute to a beautiful woman and the effect she had on so many people.
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Mike C. Okereke
2:20PM Feb 8th 2010
That is lovely. I wished I knew this determined, and selfless woman This is how the world ought to be, giving. Rest in Perfect Peace. Mike C. Okereke
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KathySkaggsPoet
8:41PM Feb 8th 2010
Beautiful article. Thank you.
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nancyfjord
9:38PM Feb 8th 2010
thank you....that was an endearing salute for a memorable life; well lived and beloved.
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tomhay9
9:55PM Feb 8th 2010
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that Liz has passed. It's been too many years since I was last in touch with her. A tremendous woman. I will always value the experience of her class, the help she gave me later when I was exploring being a "writer," and her vibrant, powerful humanity. Your article captured her wonderfully - thank you!
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Ari
1:23AM Feb 9th 2010
Thank you for the very charming, touching eulogy. Ms. Christman sounds like the professors I hope my son has when he gets on to college. My guess is she had some pretty strongly held principles and more than a little fire on her tongue, at need. I also guess that she had way too much grace and (dare I say) class to be mean to anyone. I've never heard of her until I read this piece but you have introduced me to a woman I wish I'd know and I think I will miss.
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kathy
4:26AM Feb 9th 2010
It seems there is always one teacher that we can look back on and reflect on how they were important to us at that time. Your article was endearing and I already like Miss Christman and have never met her!