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Summer weddings are all the rage among the most politically fascinating -- and polar opposite -- families. The Clintons and the Palins.
Rumors concerning every detail -- the wedding dress, the guest list, the ceremony -- swirl around the July 31 wedding of Chelsea Clinton and Marc Mezvinsky at the extravagant Astor Courts in Rhinebeck, N.Y., above the Hudson River. It promises to be a glamorous A-list affair. Mother of the bride and Secretary of State Hillary Clinton has said repeatedly, whenever given the chance, that Chelsea's wedding is the most important thing in her life.
Sarah Palin, well, is a different story. It's rumored that Sarah may not be attending daughter Bristol's August wedding to her off-again, on-again baby's daddy Levi Johnston. Gasp! No, no, no. Even Miss Manners has a word to say about this.
While Judith Martin, aka "Miss Manners," declines to discuss individuals "because it would be rude," she does have a few thoughts about parents who boycott their children's wedding, she told Politics Daily's Annie Groer.
"It is a very serious statement that people sometimes live to regret," said Martin, the author of "Miss Manners' Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding" written with daughter Jacobina Martin. "The regret stems from the fact that it makes the children very angry because it's a very public form of disapproval. It's one thing sitting around moaning that your daughter could have done better, but another to make clear to everyone in your entire circle that you think so."
It's not entirely shocking if the boycott rumor becomes truth. In the past, Sarah has been less than kind to Levi, who burnished his black sheep credentials when he posed nude for "Playgirl." He further frosted the family air by stating that Sarah called her son, Trig, who has Down's syndrome, retarded.
Palin retorted, "Consider the source of the most recent attention-getting lies. Those who would sell their body for money reflect a desperate need for attention and are likely to say and do anything for even more attention."
Just last week, in a statement to "Good Morning America," Sarah gave her blessing to her daughter's union. But it wasn't exactly endearing. "As parents, we obviously want what is best for our children, but Bristol is ultimately in charge of determining what is best for her and her beautiful son. Bristol believes in redemption and forgiveness to a degree most of us struggle to put in practice in our daily lives. We pray that, as a couple, Bristol and Levi's relationship matures into one that will allow Tripp to grow up graced with two loving parents in his life."
Chelsea was once in the middle -- literally -- between Bill and Hillary during the Monica Lewinsky scandal. But perhaps because of the love for their daughter, the high-powered political couple worked through their problems and remained married. Happy faces will abound at the wedding.
It's been made clear that invitees to Chelsea's wedding must personally know the couple, and they should not leak information. The private twosome tend to eschew the spotlight and have not been spotted all over Manhattan buying china and wedding favors.
Bristol and Levi live in a vastly different universe than Chelsea and Marc. They can't seem to get enough attention. Even Bristol's recent ex-boyfriend and Levi's former hockey teammate, Ben Barber, has gotten into the mix, dishing dirt on his former girlfriend.
Bristol and Levi may be in negotiations for a reality show around their impending nuptials in Alaska and life with their 2-year-old son, Tripp, although a rep for Bristol Palin has denied that. Networks don't seem interested at the moment, but stranger things have aired on television. Remember Tori Spelling?
It's easy to imagine the reception chatter at Chelsea's wedding. Think Washington cocktail party with a wedding cake. FOBs like Terry McAuliffe will likely toast the couple and tell everyone who will listen that the Democrats will win the midterms. There will be plenty of wistful White House story telling over expensive champagne.
Oh, to be a fly on the wall at Bristol and Levi's celebration. With or without Sarah, it's sure to be an affair for Alaskans to remember. One family member told the media that the event was Alaska's equivalent to Princess Diana's wedding. Maybe with some extra-added caribou in the mix. It's not so far fetched to think that the wedding, like many celebrity nuptials these days, may be underwritten by a tabloid in exchange for the exclusive pics.
Bristol, 19, could take a lesson from Chelsea, 30.
Chelsea could have opted for a wild party-girl lifestyle in New York or Hollywood. She didn't exactly have a picture-perfect childhood even in the White House. The media shamefully -- and unfairly -- joked about her teen awkwardness even as her parents tried their best to shield her from scrutiny. Her father had an impeachment scandal triggered by his liaison with Monica Lewinsky. But Chelsea stayed on track and didn't take the predictable "fall from grace" path.
Instead, she graduated from Stanford, earned a master's degree from Oxford, and worked at a New York consulting firm followed by a job at a hedge fund. She serves on the board of the School for American Ballet. She is studying health policy and management at Columbia University's Mailman School of Public Health.
By contrast, Bristol has had a rough-go thus far in her young life. She endured an unplanned teen pregnancy and a hailstorm of sordid true-and-untrue allegations while her mother ran as Sen. John McCain's vice presidential pick. Her husband-to-be has feuded bitterly and publicly with his future mother-in-law. Family holidays likely won't resemble a Currier & Ives postcard.
Both women have one thing in common -- fathers who care about them. Reports say that Todd Palin will escort Bristol down the aisle regardless of whether Sarah attends. There's no question about Bill Clinton. He'll be there, and he's losing 15 pounds for the big event.
If Sarah doesn't attend, the focus will be on her absence and not the couple as they try to make their way into what will surely be a married life with plenty of baggage from the start. Hopefully, the rumors aren't true and Sarah will attend. If not, she, too, needs to take lesson from Miss Manners -- and the Clintons -- and be there for her daughter.

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Leatrice

at a time when too many Americans are struggling very hard to pay their current bills, what kind of message is this clinton thing to send to us? Let us eat caake??

July 25 2010 at 2:04 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
copperkettle3

Do the family values of each of these families show the difference between "walking the walk" and "talking the talk"?

July 22 2010 at 3:06 PM Report abuse -1 rate up rate down Reply
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ipreiss36

Yes ! Its hard, but it can go a long way. It what the kids need these days.

July 27 2010 at 12:38 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
oregonrainlover

I'm so happy that Bristol and Levi are giving it a go for the sake of their little son. This happens to many young couples who break up and then realize that they do want to be together and be a family. Good for them! It wouldn't be any different if they were your next door neighbors. They are people who deserve a second chance at life and love. As for Chelsea and Mark (or Marc) those two will have it easy. Money, social standing and acceptance even though they have been living together for two years. They just stayed out of the spotlight. Good luck to both couples.

July 22 2010 at 12:13 AM Report abuse +2 rate up rate down Reply
Nimue

Wishing the best to both couples as they prepare to start the rest of their lives together.

July 21 2010 at 11:07 PM Report abuse +8 rate up rate down Reply
nama holston

We seem to want to interject our ideals and ideas into the lives of people we only know from reading about them, seeing them on TV, tuning in on them via the internet, facebook, etc., and some of the words we use are hurtful and detrimental to others. Sarah will do OK with her family and if she doesn't she still has the choice to make. Remember how long it took for the Clintons to recoup from their maritial problem and how long Chelsea had to play the link for the marriage she should not have had play? Leave Sarah Palin's family alone and let them choose their own paths.

July 21 2010 at 10:54 PM Report abuse +6 rate up rate down Reply
isndbreeze

Quote: While Judith Martin, aka "Miss Manners," declines to discuss individuals "because it would be rude," she does have a few thoughts about parents who boycott their children's wedding... Unquote.
If it's rude then why do it? But more importantly, you say, "It's rumored that Sarah may not be attending" then you go to great effort to chastise her, writing a whole article as if this spurilous rumour were absolute truth. The fact that Levi himself has caused there to be less than warm fuzzy feelings between him and Bristol's parents, Sarah especially, is well-documented and understood, but I would not for one moment place any bets on Sarah boycotting her daughter's wedding. Not gonna happen. I guarantee it! Miss Manners was right. It is rude to attack an individual's integrity in this way, especially based on unsubstantiated rumours that could never hold up to the light.

July 21 2010 at 10:51 PM Report abuse +5 rate up rate down Reply
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heather

Judith Martin didn't write the entire article. Suzi Martin was the author who proceeded to lecture Sara Palin about her possible non-attendance.
Judith mentioned no-one by name as she said she would not.
However, this was a non-article by a non-author with a misleading title.

July 27 2010 at 6:47 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
Lou

Sara does not need lessons from Hillary. She is an intelligent woman that does just fine as a Mother. More ordinary people can relate to Sara than Hillary. She speaks her mind and I believe she is as honest as anyone could be. Many families have gone through the problems of a daughter "having a child out of wedlock" as they used to say. It is so common today for babies to be born to unwed parents it seems accepted as normal. Sara has ample reason to not like Levi because of his own choices. I am sure she will be at the wedding and will smile like she always does. Disliking Levi is no reason to spoil her daughter's wedding day. Good luck to you Sara in any future endevours.

July 21 2010 at 10:48 PM Report abuse -1 rate up rate down Reply
arealtaxpayer

Levi is a cheap shot gold digging liar. The Palin's should be very concerned for their daughter and grandchild. Please stop comparing anyone to or with the Clinton's as Chelsea was the only adult standing with their family values and morals

July 21 2010 at 10:43 PM Report abuse -6 rate up rate down Reply
jaluty

You can't expect Sarah Palin to take any kind of advice about parenting from Bill and Hillary. AFter all she ran as the GOP darling, you know...the family values party! This would require her to actually admit she's screwed up raising those kids.

July 21 2010 at 10:42 PM Report abuse +4 rate up rate down Reply
s2at25

Manners over belief. Now if that isn't a liberal attitude I don't know what would be. The Clinton's are hardly the picture of a functional family. Sarah Palin doesn't like her son in law to be and wants her daughter to understand that in no uncertain terms. Finally why is ANY of this anyone's business other than the families involved? This certainly is not news.

July 21 2010 at 10:40 PM Report abuse -1 rate up rate down Reply

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