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This must be a slow news week because many media outlets are reporting that Ken Mehlman, former chairman of the Republican National Committee (2005 to 2007) and President George W. Bush's campaign manager in 2004, is gay. Mehlman, who came out publicly in an interview with The Atlantic's Marc Ambinder, admits it took him longer than it should have to feel at ease acknowledging his sexual orientation. "It's taken me 43 years to get comfortable with this part of my life," Mehlman said. He continued, "The process has been something that's made me a happier and better person. It's something I wish I had done years ago."

Despite the raised eyebrows in some of the coverage, "gay conservative" is not an oxymoron. I worked for Rep. Steve Gunderson (R-Wis.) from 1994 to 1996 during the time that he was publicly outted in 1994 by California conservative Bob Dornan on the House floor. While that seemed earth shattering then, when I escorted Gunderson's partner to the Cannon Building in 1995 to obtain his spousal identification card from the sergeant at arms, it seemed fitting given the natural progression of the issue and their relationship. Haven't we come further than to consider it news that someone is both homosexual and Republican?

Then again, maybe we haven't. Among my conventionally Republican circle, even in 2010, there remains a conundrum of being politically conservative while socially liberal. Many gay conservatives are "out" when it comes to their sexuality, but "closeted" when it comes to their political beliefs -- keeping their conservative values a secret from their gay friends.

It's true there is a faction of the Republican Party that is anti-gay. Sexual orientation, race, religion and gender should have no bearing on which political party you support, but many extreme traditionalists seem determined to perpetuate the assumption that Republicans are racist, sexist and homophobic. Even Mehlman cringed when his former boss Karl Rove made sure anti-gay initiatives and referenda appeared on ballots in 2004 and 2006 to increase voter turnout by rallying the right's resistance to LGBT issues. "I can't change the fact that I wasn't in this place personally when I was in politics, and I genuinely regret that. It was very hard, personally," Mehlman said.

Mehlman is a Republican who just happens to be gay and there are many more whose active participation the party needs. It is well-known to political reporters that several congressional Republican leaders rely on high-level gay staffers to shape political policy. These aides are open about their sexual orientation to their bosses and work closely with them to represent their conservative districts.

The fact is that until very recently the majority of mainstream Americans have not supported gay marriage, so gay staffers in these positions are restricted from advocating for it publicly. Same-sex weddings do not reflect the will of their constituents.

Nonetheless, in my experience, many in the GOP welcome diversity. Sarah Palin ushered in a new enthusiasm for women interested in politics and now a record number of Republican women are running for Congress. A growing number of conservative feminists refuse to adhere to outdated notions of what it means to be a progressive woman. (Often these women face severe criticism from liberals, however. The National Federation of Republican Women recently denounced the EMILY's List attack on Republican women candidates.)

Racial diversity in the GOP is increasing as well. Consider the National Republican Congressional Committee's Young Guns as a more concerned reflection of the party. I've personally interviewed three men who represent the new demographics: Rev. Isaac Hayes, Israel Vasquez and Sean Duffy, but we need to shout about this diversity rather than keep it a secret.

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lminefee121

Being conservative and gay is hypocritical, but i think that if thats how you believe, then it is fine. There can be someone who is gay, and still believe in the conservative ways. Although, Mehlman was a conservative, which would be against gay marriage, I think he could be politically conservative and socially liberal.

September 17 2010 at 2:13 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
pclittler

I have to admit, its hard to get your mind around all these issues. Everyone to so degree has legitimate points. sometimes we cannot see the forest though the trees.we cannot be all right or all wrong, but we can use wisdom to discern what is going on. We are being hood winked so we focus on causes that that are our emotional buttons, and ignore the emotional buttons of others. We need to be big enough to find the common denominator that will help keep us together, to fight for freedom. There are forces out there that would just love to use our ind. buttons for thier own plans. To divide and conquer. I always think about the French revolution.Grievances were accurate but the outcome was barbaric.Lets not be fooled into these traps. The end of which will not help your cause, do not be deceived.

August 29 2010 at 1:29 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
ipt39

Whoa...this is all smoke and mirrors...The Republicans are trotting one or two people out before the media to try to reach the groups of people they routinely exclude from their political agenda. This is all political - the timing of Mehlman's announcement is suspect...

August 28 2010 at 11:06 AM Report abuse -2 rate up rate down Reply
diabloblanco10

This has nothing to do with being a conservative, but everything to do with hypocrisy and oppression. Mehlman worked tirelessly to deny others their Consitutional rights in our country. As chairman of the Republican party he led the charge to marginlize millions of gay people, and now we are to just accept those horrific actions towards others because he wasn't "comfortable" with himself? For shame.

August 28 2010 at 7:55 AM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
Kevin

Interesting note in the evolution of the Republican Party. In the time of Lincoln, there was great concern, in fact a civil war, about the concepts and ramifications of the idea that all men are created equal. How is it now that they are pushing the idea that all men are not created equal? As far as being political conservative, again in the time of Lincoln, the Republicans stood for a strong federal gov't. What has caused the big changes to the Grand Ole Party?

August 27 2010 at 10:11 PM Report abuse -3 rate up rate down Reply
Michael

Sensitive people know when they are in the company of bigots.

August 27 2010 at 8:08 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
KMA

We see the enemy in it is us. Talk about a 5th column. Don't forget many Muslims are conservatives and if some Muslims are fanatics, then so must it be for conservatives. Some conservatives are even from races originating in Africa. Can you believe it!

August 27 2010 at 7:39 PM Report abuse -3 rate up rate down Reply
schris1463

It's nice to know that I am not alone in my beliefs. I am politically conservative but socially liberal. I do not believe we have a right to tell someone who they can and cannot marry. The Republican party would do well to drop any platforms that are negative to any group.

August 27 2010 at 6:17 PM Report abuse +8 rate up rate down Reply
davmusgro

If the left wing keeps going in favor of muslim beliefs the american gay community may be looking ahead to a big problem Obama and clinton have brought nothing new to the table for gays except promises but gay or straight you still have to live in this economy and its not good for either.

August 27 2010 at 6:03 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
scott and kara

I am a proud Republican, I am not anti-gay or racist. I am a proud Catholic, I believe in charity and kindness to all in "true need". What I don't believe in is "taking advantage" of others charity and kindness to benefit oneself, without the graciousness and eagerness to pass on their good fortune to others. We have to stop the culture of government handouts, and look within ourselves for a better tomorrow. Those who have taken in their lives, need to start giving. We are all sinners. That does not give us an excuse to perpetually make poor decisions. Don't become the stereotype, step outside the box and become the best you can be!

August 27 2010 at 4:38 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply

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